Many months ago, in my WhatsApp group for my hair course alumni, there was a very important discussion about how to care for the hair of children who experience sensory overload.
For children with sensory processing challenges, haircare can feel overwhelming—brushing, washing, and styling may trigger discomfort, meltdowns, or resistance. As a parent or caregiver, finding ways to make the process smoother is key.
Before diving into sensory-friendly haircare tips, it’s important to understand Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) is a condition that affects how the brain processes sensory input, making everyday experiences overwhelming for some children.
SPD is common in children with autism, ADHDers, and those with developmental differences, but it can also occur on its own.
How SPD Affects Haircare
For a child with SPD, haircare can feel like:
- Brushing = Pain (each tug may feel amplified).
- Washing = Sensory Attack (water, shampoo smells, and sounds can be overwhelming).
- Styling = Loss of Control (unexpected touches or tight hairstyles trigger anxiety).
Signs Your Child Struggles with Sensory Haircare
Watch for:
✔Crying, covering ears, or pulling away during brushing/washing.
✔ Refusing haircuts or certain hairstyles
✔ Overreacting to minor touches (even a light comb stroke feels harsh).
✔ Seeking sensory input (rubbing hair constantly or avoiding hair ties).
If any of the above applies to you or anyone you know, here are gentle, sensory-friendly tips to help your child feel comfortable while keeping their hair healthy and styled.
Sensory-Friendly Haircare: Keep Your Child Comfortable & Styled
1. Understand Their Triggers
Every child’s sensory sensitivities are different. Common triggers include:
- Tugging or pulling (from brushes, tight styles)
- Water sensitivity (dislike of washing/rinsing)
- Sound sensitivity (electric clippers, spray bottles)
- Tactile aversion (certain textures like gel or hairspray)
Tip: Observe their reactions—do they flinch at combs but tolerate fingers? Does damp hair bother them more than dry? Adjust your approach accordingly.
2. Choose the Right Tools
Avoid:
- Hard-bristle brushes
- Fine-tooth combs
- Tight elastics (can cause breakage and discomfort)
Use Instead:
- Wide-tooth comb or detangling brush
- Soft-bristle brush (for gentle smoothing)
- Silk/satin scrunchies (less pulling than regular elastics)
- Spray bottle with warm water (instead of cold spritzes)
3. Make Washing Easier
Many sensory-sensitive kids struggle with hair washing.
Try:
✔ Use a tear-free, fragrance-free shampoo (like Child’s Farm or Cetaphil Baby)
✔ Let them tilt their head back (use a handheld showerhead or cup to rinse).
✔ Distract with toys or songs (a favorite bath toy can ease anxiety).
✔ Dry shampoo as an alternative (for days when washing is too much).
4. Detangle Without Drama
Knots can be painful. Minimize stress by:
- Working in small sections (don’t rush).
- Holding hair near the scalp (to reduce pulling).
- Using a Spritz like our Rose of Jericho detangler for slip making it faster and easier
- Letting them hold a favorite toy or watch a video for distraction.
5. Simple, Sensory-Friendly Styles
Avoid tight ponytails or braids that pull.
Try these low-tension styles instead:
- Loose braids or twists (secured with soft scrunchies).
- Pigtails or half-up styles (less tension than a full ponytail).
- Headbands or stretchy wraps (if they tolerate fabric).
- Short, low-maintenance cuts (if long hair is a daily struggle).
6. Create a Calm Routine
- Use a visual schedule (a picture chart showing steps: brush, style, done).
- Let them choose (pick between two brushes or hairstyles to give control).
- Praise small wins ("You did such a great job sitting still!").
7. Know When to Take Breaks
If your child is overwhelmed:
- Stop and try later (forcing it can create negative associations).
- Use a detangling spray and finger-comb if needed.
Final Thought
Haircare with sensory sensitivities doesn’t have to be a battle. With patience, the right tools, and a flexible approach, you can help your child feel more at ease.
Do you have a sensory-friendly haircare tip? Share in the comments!💙